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October 2009 
The Gate
Posted on Sep 11th, 2006
by 
J~E~S~S
J~E~S~S
I have recently purchased a baby gate to keep the baby from falling down the stairs, because he now crawls quite well. I situated it to close off the living room from the stairway. Our kitchen has two entrances, and the one that accesses the stairs is now on the other side of the gate from the living room.
You never really know how much you run on automatic until you shut down a well trafficed route like this. Everyone in the house tries to go down the stairs from the living room, as on automatic, instead of walking through the kitchen to access the stairs. We all have reported "forgetting" the gate is there and trying to get to the kitchen or stairs the more popular way, and then having to backtrack and take the longer way around. After a couple of days of this, our older children started removing the gate when the baby is sleeping.
In the movie, "What the Bleep do we Know?", there is a segment that explains how the neurons in the brain can respond to routine behaviours. If one reacts to situations with the why me victim mentality, the neurons associated with the most used emotions/routes will become stronger but stiffer, like a rut. The neurons associated with more blissful emotions will wither up and die if we don't use them.
If we let our brains run on automatic without developing the watcher to observe our own reactions, and change them accordingly, we run the risk of making permanent gates. Gates that can't be easily put to the side, like the one at the top of my stairs. If we always respond to negative situations with why me, or excessive anger, or blaming others, etc., we make accessing the positive emotions much harder to do, insomuch as we'll have to re-wire our own brains. (have you ever had to re-learn how to walk after physical trauma? I met someone who had to do that and It's HARD)
As an aside, I just found lime.com from a Google ad on my own Liveonpurpose site (and no, I didn't click the link as per Google's rules). If you like Zaadz, you'll like Lime.com, too. Their byline is "healthy living with a twist" and the founder is a green living vegetarian mommy. They, like Zaadz, want to become totally branded with Lime tv, Lime radio, and Lime.com. About us page at Lime.
You never really know how much you run on automatic until you shut down a well trafficed route like this. Everyone in the house tries to go down the stairs from the living room, as on automatic, instead of walking through the kitchen to access the stairs. We all have reported "forgetting" the gate is there and trying to get to the kitchen or stairs the more popular way, and then having to backtrack and take the longer way around. After a couple of days of this, our older children started removing the gate when the baby is sleeping.
In the movie, "What the Bleep do we Know?", there is a segment that explains how the neurons in the brain can respond to routine behaviours. If one reacts to situations with the why me victim mentality, the neurons associated with the most used emotions/routes will become stronger but stiffer, like a rut. The neurons associated with more blissful emotions will wither up and die if we don't use them.
If we let our brains run on automatic without developing the watcher to observe our own reactions, and change them accordingly, we run the risk of making permanent gates. Gates that can't be easily put to the side, like the one at the top of my stairs. If we always respond to negative situations with why me, or excessive anger, or blaming others, etc., we make accessing the positive emotions much harder to do, insomuch as we'll have to re-wire our own brains. (have you ever had to re-learn how to walk after physical trauma? I met someone who had to do that and It's HARD)
As an aside, I just found lime.com from a Google ad on my own Liveonpurpose site (and no, I didn't click the link as per Google's rules). If you like Zaadz, you'll like Lime.com, too. Their byline is "healthy living with a twist" and the founder is a green living vegetarian mommy. They, like Zaadz, want to become totally branded with Lime tv, Lime radio, and Lime.com. About us page at Lime.
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